{"id":93,"date":"2020-08-23T20:49:29","date_gmt":"2020-08-23T20:49:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/?p=93"},"modified":"2020-08-23T20:49:29","modified_gmt":"2020-08-23T20:49:29","slug":"the-fallacy-of-great-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/?p=93","title":{"rendered":"The fallacy of great expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you ever get so caught up in how you think people will react to a particular instance or event, that when they do <em>actually<\/em> react it takes you utterly by surprise? In a way you perceive as either good surprise or bad surprise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve had a few moments like this recently. I always want to see the best in people, and as my own harsh critic I place tough expectations on myself, for myself. But, when other people fall short of my own personal expectations I\u2019m disappointed. Which is insane, because firstly these are my <strong>own<\/strong> expectations for <em>myself<\/em>, and secondly we are each an <strong>individual<\/strong>. We don\u2019t want people all the same. We <em>need<\/em> differences. Like the saying goes: variety is the spice of life. Having differing people creates a healthy balance of opinion and, well, general interestingness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing about expectations is that hopelessly believing (or wishing) that people will react and be the same as you can be self destruction. It inadvertently hurts me when I feel people let me down &#8211; which isn\u2019t fair. They never signed up to those expectations in the first place. It\u2019s literally not you, it\u2019s me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of thinking how we would be in any given situation, it\u2019s more useful to readjust our mindset &#8211; what would so and so do? If I was so and so what would I think?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Habits take time to develop, and life is one continuous development. If only it came with a guidebook&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you ever get so caught up in how you think people will react to a particular instance or event, that when they do actually react it takes you utterly by surprise? In a way you perceive as either good surprise or bad surprise. I\u2019ve had a few moments like this recently. I always want [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[22,31,58],"tags":[44,25,5,24,33,29,28,3],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/93"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=93"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/93\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=93"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=93"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithoftheheart.co.uk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=93"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}